Self leadership – the Toughest Kind
True leadership starts with just you
I often get asked about what makes a great leader. I used to try and cover all of the aspects of leadership when answering that question, because leading others is a complex and dynamic art. Now I often just answer with a simple phrase: they lead themselves first.
In most cases great leaders were leading themselves long before anyone put them in a position of leading others, that’s how they got there. The people who get promoted to leadership roles are the ones that become leaders long before someone gives them the title. There are many ways that people lead themselves but I’ve tried to capture the essence of what good self-leaders do in these four steps.
Set the pace:
Dwight D. Eisenhower illustrated the art of leadership by placing a string on a table and saying “if you pull it, it will follow you anywhere but if you try to push it, it will go nowhere.” Leadership is about being in front and moving differently than others. It’s about deciding where you want to go and then going there with a sense of purpose. If you are sure of your goals and your destination and are moving toward them you are leading yourself in a way others will quickly notice. It’s impossible to lead from behind. Decide what’s most important to you and start working toward it. Others will soon start looking for ways to follow and support your efforts.
Become the person you would follow:
This may be the hardest concept to execute. We know ourselves inside and out and yet we have to ask on a daily basis, “knowing everything about me, would I follow me?” If the answer is no, we have work to do. It’s not about being perfect or making all of the right choices, but it is about challenging yourself every day to become the person you would respect, admire, and follow. There are too many leaders who spend the majority of their time on creating the public perception of who they want to be rather than working to actually become that person. It’s much harder but as you become someone you would follow you can look back and see that a lot of other people have noticed, and are behind you as well.
Learn continuously:
Things change fast and if you keep using the same solutions over and over, soon they won’t work. The most dangerous leaders I have ever been around are the ones who already think they have all the answers. Leaders like that stop learning and stop listening. Leaders who are able to overcome their own challenges by learning more, applying new thought processes and constantly considering new ideas will be able to address the new obstacles in their path much more successfully. Keep pushing yourself with new challenges. Find things you are scared to do, and do them. Every time you take a step like that you learn something new, you acquire a new way of thinking. Soon there are fewer and fewer things that you can’t handle or don’t have experience with. Others around you will watch you learning and breaking through barriers and soon begin to do that for themselves. That’s real leadership.
Inspire yourself:
It’s been said that much of leadership is about inspiring others. That’s impossible to do if you can’t inspire yourself. If you can’t point to something that matters to you enough to commit to it, work hard for it and suffer multiple failures before you achieve it, then don’t expect anyone else to get to excited about it either. Leadership is often about envisioning a better future and being willing to do whatever it takes to get there. Make certain that you frame your own vision in a way that compels you. Martin Luther King Jr. probably would have stopped very early in his journey if he had thought about his vision as “I have a suggestion.” If you find something that’s worth doing, and clearly picture what the future would be like if you get it done you can create inspiration for yourself. Then, and only then, do you have what it takes to connect others to that same vision, or even one of their own. That, above anything else, will make them change their own behavior and set out in a new direction. That’s the essence of leadership.
Many leaders are placed in positions of power before they have mastered the art of self-leadership, they usually don’t last. Leading yourself is the most difficult thing that you do every day and yet it’s the only thing that will help you achieve your own goals and dreams and then understand how to help others do that for themselves. Leaders don’t motivate others. Motivation is an inside job and no one can do it for you. What leaders do is help others tap into things they care about, that they are willing to go the extra mile for. Leaders, because of who they are, how they behave and what they believe in, inspire commitment, not just compliance. Compliance is what bosses get. When you are able to create commitment for yourself, then you learn how to help others light their own internal fire. When you lead yourself first, you’ve already become a great leader and in time, others in the organization, the business, or the community, or even the family, will follow your lead.
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Randy,
Let me just scream out a loud and proud AMEN, my brilliant friend…AMEN!! Very insightful and spot on post. Thank you for your shining example of leadership and for caring enough to share your wisdom. Never doubt that you are making a impact!
Semper Fi,
Kelley
What a great reminder Randy! I am so tired of working with and around leaders “who already think they have all the answers”. I have learned a lot from them all, on what not to do or how to act! I can tell you I have added your suggestions to personal leadership development file that I take out and look at a few times a week!
Thank you for taking the time to write this!
Randy:
So much of what it takes to make a good leader is a solo activity. Leaders have a point of view, they can define the future, they see potential in people and situations. Those are all things that happen first between their ears.
But then those ideas meet reality, their co-workers, competitors, their to-do list; and we need to allow those “real” constraints to engage our creativity and move the ideas forward to another level (your continuous learning).
I have seen leaders fail on both of these fronts, some don’t have enough self-leadership and others not letting reality shape that self-generated impression.
Brad
Juli,
Thanks for the kind comments. So many leaders think it’s about getting someone else to do something different. Often its about getting yourself to do something different so others will follow. Working on others though just seems easier somehow than working on ourselves.
Thanks for reading it and thanks for sharing a little bit about your journey to becoming a leader. I’m looking forward to following it as you get more and more involved.
Randy
Really enjoyed this post Randy! I think my favorite part is this sentence: “In most cases great leaders were leading themselves long before anyone put them in a position of leading others, that’s how they got there.” I think that is so true of great leaders. As I get more and more involved in where BCG is headed, I really enjoy reading about how to be a better leader and I think this post has some great points. Thanks for writing it!
Gini,
Thanks for the kind words. you an amazing job of introspection already. I’m glad you found value in the post.
Randy
Great post, Randy! As someone (as you know) who is constantly working on being a better leader (not just the public perception) I really appreciate your thoughts on leading myself, first. It’s also great fodder for me to pass along to some of my colleagues who I see have great leadership potential.
This is a very insightful post. In times like this leaders are in very high demand. Our economy, our country, the world and our lives need leaders now more than ever. Information like this really can help to change the world, one leader at a time.
You’re best yet–allows people to think in terms of what they can truly control, which is themselves. Nice going my super smart friend!
Hey, Randy! Great blog post. Leading yourself is also a lifelong, exciting journey! Nowadays, being promoted too early is so common practice! I would say about 80% of the people we are coaching now have some form of that same problem. And leading yourself is such a profound way of facing a challenge like this. New leaders that feel overwhelmed by their roles will learn better when taking this approach. And old timers will already know it is a part of the todo list that never ends. Thanx for a great reflection.
Thanks for the comment Wally. I’m sure you have witnessed it many times yourself. I know I was there when I was placed in my first leadership role too many years ago. I learned how the hard way but only after making lots of mistakes.
Even now I think leading ourselves is something we continue to learn every day.
Randy
Nice post, Randy. You touch on something we rarely talk about. One of the hardest things to come back from is being promoted too soon. And, as you note that’s most likely to happen if you haven’t learned to lead yourself before you’re asked to lead others.